A friend comes crying to you with what they perceive is a problem - do you laugh in their face and say grow up or do you do the mature thing. Listen and ask them what it is they expect from you while all the time in your head you are screaming grow up.
When you have something you really tend to take a lot of things for granted. I have a friend who after six years of marriage really thought she had sold herself short and married beneath her and all. She decided it was time for her to go out and find her true mate. As a true friend I tried as hard as I could to tell that the "Mills & Boon" (UK) or in the USA Harlequin Romance Novels could not be further from the truth. Why on earth as teenagers we were allowed to read this is beyond me. They leave you damage because no prince in shining armor is going to ride and steal your heart.
I believe as long as I have been out of the dating scene I understand relationships now more than I did when I was married or dating. The outside looking in - the picture is crystal clear. Relationships are give and take. You can not ask for perfect if you yourself are not perfect. And for those of you who believe you are perfect am sure there is a pill for that too.
Going back to my friend - yes she did not listen to me - she went ahead and divorce that after a year of searching unsuccessfully for her soul mate she had to endure seeing her ex swooped up by someone who thought he was her knight in shining amour. It was extremely painful to resist saying I told you so.
Now she is in my camp - searching ever so unsuccessfully for that one person with whom together you can compromise your way to as close a perfect relationship as you can.
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