Monday, November 25, 2013

Is the soul searching after a breakup necessary


Why is it after a breakup women want to go and revisit every single relationship they have ever had?  Does it actually serve a purpose?  If you are giving of your best while you are in a relationship there really should be any need to soul search afterwards.

Many of us get really angry and overact.  Now do not get me wrong.  I am not saying do not get mad. Yes get really mad but do not cut all lines of communications just because you are mad.  Allow yourself a day of two to simmer down some.  Then after you have calmed down then reassess things.  Some sins are unforgivable and other we need to find compromises.

Before you swear up and down that you want some out of your life take time to look at the good times too.  Weigh the pros and cons.  Danger is sometimes we tell ourselves that someone who loves would never do certain to us but we seldom look at what we do to loved ones. 

So before you go to all corners of the world in search a duplicate of what you have just banished out of your kingdom tell them just how upset you are and hear their reason for the big tragedy.  If there is neither remorse nor a promise never to repeat said sin again then you need to head towards the exit sign. 
Soul searching once our anger subsides is no good for anyone if the relationship is now too damaged to fix.  The saying "never go to bed angry" does not need to be taken so literally for I believe sometimes we can be flaming angry - but let’s do it with a purpose.

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