Damsel in distress - does it work and how far should it go?

 Since I have not been in the playpen for so long many of the rules now just seem to baffle me.  One of my co-workers is what you would see from a distance as being happily married.  And I dare say if you asked him he would consider himself as such. 

The only problem is that none of us around him would consider him that.  He works and his wife is simply a housewife.  Now while I might seem resentful I am not but I know so many women that are at home and I respect them plenty for holding down the fort at home-base because heaven alone knows that takes some doing.  The only problem here is that she does absolutely nothing.  Calls him twenty times a day to ask what she should do or tell him what groceries he needs to pick up on his way home.  Sometimes he calls to tell him to run errands during office hours while she is at home – things that she can actually do and do not need heavy lifting.

Being a woman one would think I would be rejoicing and saying one for the team.  No this one gives girls a bad name.  Or maybe I am the wrong one here and would then think that that whole "useless without you" that she is fronting is what is keeping her in the home.  Is this what men find attractive - a woman totally dependent on them to the point of ridiculous?  Did I figure it all wrong and the whole “we are a team” play book needs to be thrown out?  Seriously I am baffled!! This woman is no longer a damsel but the role truly seems to be still in play!

New Year's resolutions

I figured I would wait a little before zoning in on my New Year's resolution.  Thought by the end of the first month I would have a better idea of how my year is going and what part I had to play in making 2014 better than 2013 but alas I am still very confused.  Confusion has more to do with my lack of progress filing that longtime vacant post of "significant other".

Everyone and their mama seem to have an opinion on the reasons for my lack of progress.  I have tried being more open minded because many said I was closed minded.  My one cousin tells me all the men fall short of this ideal boyfriend I have formed in my head.  A part of me agrees with him but the other part screams NO!!!  A very loud no!  I am definitely not looking for a tall dark and handsome "Mr. Big" like dude.  No sire.  I absolutely take no pleasure from other women ogling at my man but neither must he have a third eye.

I consider myself an extremely sociable person -"A people-person so to speak".  I have friends from all walks of life and do not find it difficult to get into conversation with anyone about anything. So one would think that is half the battle there.  I am no way a snob - for heaven's sake what would I be a snob about.

The difficulty for me is that I live in a society where it is absolutely OK for a woman to approach man.  I am reliably informed that men find this extremely sexy.  I on the other hand am extremely old fashioned. I want to be courted.  I want to get to know a guy before I pretend to be committed to him for the rest of my life (not that I am looking for a short relationship we all do commit ourselves verbally way before  I want to talk into the wee hours on the phone as I slowly get to know a guy.  I want to take walks, watch a movie that I like and then sit down for a football game or basketball whatever is his fancy.  I am even willing to go golfing once its thaws from this deep freeze we are in.

So tell me where I am going wrong?  Neither do I have a third eye.  I work hard at keeping my weight down because I love my food passionately as I love most other things.  What is it that men are looking for?  Is there a manual somewhere - if so please send me a copy!